The Muslimah Sex Manual: A Halal Guide to Mind Blowing Sex

There is no shortage of sex manuals, but this Muslimah sex manual is one for Muslim women, written by a Muslim woman, is a particularly special one.

Umm Muladhat shares the motivation behind writing the manual on her website:

“Two years ago, I was congratulating a young Muslimah on her engagement. She was thrilled about starting married life and you could see the happiness emanating from her as everyone gave her their best wishes.

 

A few months later, I could tell something was wrong.

 

After some cajoling, she shyly admitted the truth. Her sex life was horrible. In fact, it was fast becoming non-existent. She had been a model Muslimah her entire life. Before marriage, she had never so much as held a non-mahram’s hand, let alone become physically intimate with one. She had eagerly looked forward to marriage as a chance to finally indulging in all the physical intimacy she had postponed for the sake of Allah.

But it wasn’t working.

 

Coming from the medical field, she knew all the relevant biology. She could draw and label all the parts of male and female anatomy. She had taken fiqh classes and knew the legal rulings of menstruation and intercourse.

 

But she didn’t know sex.

And so began my impromptu sex skills workshop. I threw at her all the information I’d gathered over years of marriage… I gave her everything, fervently hoping that it would help her in her marital life.

A month later, I saw her again. This time she had a gigantic smile on her face. “Please, write this down and share it with other Muslim girls. No one teaches this. We’re thrown into marriage and only know the fiqh and the biology.”

The response to the publication of this book has been phenomenal. Many women are thankful that such a book has been written, with chapters covering kissing and even BDSM. For long, the topic of sex – healthy and happy sex – has remained very much unspoken of. This means that many (not all) Muslim women have gone into marriages with little understanding of how to enjoy – key word being enjoy – healthy sexual relations. Sure, everybody knows the mechanics of sex, the process in which it happens, but few know how to maximise it being a pleasurable experience.

The weight and value given to sex in Islam is huge, not to mention all the rewards that a sexual relation with a spouse can bring. There are countless ahadith (Prophetic sayings) about sex, and even the best methods of foreplay are addressed. Islam comprehensively guides a healthy sex life, but conservatives within culture often shy away from talking about it. And so, this sex manual fills in for that deficiency and has opened the floor for dialogue pertaining to healthy, enjoyable and happy sex!

Some however, have questioned why Umm Muladhat’s manual has received the media attention that it has.

Why the media hype over the *first ever* halal sex guide?? Ignoring hundreds of years of Islamic jurisprudence on sex, of course…

— Ruqaiya (@ruqaiya_h) July 19, 2017

I can't believe that "omg the mysterious veiled Muslim women have sex" is still a media narrative in 2017 lol

— Ruqaiya (@ruqaiya_h) July 19, 2017

Regardless, Umm Muladhat’s sex manual is about to change the sex lives for many Muslim women, for the better!